Zona Cannavo had a remarkable experience. She writes:“One normal, sunny, Monday morning, after sending my sweet husband out the door for a business trip, and getting my son off to school, I was ready to begin my day!“I had a day of errands planned, and was going to start my day on the treadmill. As I was putting on my second shoe, I had a very strong impression to make cinnamon rolls. I thought, why in the world would I think that?“Once again the thought came to me to make cinnamon rolls. I Read More.
I, too, have struggled with the balance between not blaming Satan enough, and blaming him too much. It has actually turned into one of the central focuses of my work over the past 20 years. Asking questions like, “When is it him, and when is it me?” The simplest and most complete answer I have found is in Moroni 7. “That which is not good is of Satan”vs12 ” that which is evil cometh of the devil; for the devil is an enemy unto God, and fighteth against him continually,”Notice the obnoxious Read More.
Having a spouse with a pornography addiction can be devastating. Here are some ways to get through it.Some time ago, in a conversation with my cousin Emily (names have been changed), I mentioned I was under a lot of stress. She said, “I know what you’re going through.”I thought she was referring to the normal busyness that accompanies the lives of a young family, so I clarified by explaining that my husband was working through some problems. Then Emily said, “I understand what you are going Read More.
We run a private forum for women who are personally affected by the pornography/sex addiction of a spouse, boyfriend, or loved one. The forum, like this blog, represents the seeds of a cooperative effort of non-profit leaders, professional therapists, individual women in recovery wanting to help, and website managers who have seen a need for support for wives, ex-wives, and partners of porn addicts. Come talk with other women who are walking this path, and see what has helped them find hope and Read More.
Fairly often someone calls me at home or at work and tells me their marriage is in trouble. They ask if they can come see me. I explain that I am a professor of family life but not a therapist. That almost never deters them.They—usually a couple but sometimes one partner—set an appointment to come to see me. They are always in deep pain. I often do something they don’t expect. They come prepared to process a litany of complaints and a load of discouragement. They often expect me to be able to Read More.