Fairly often someone calls me at home or at work and tells me their marriage is in trouble. They ask if they can come see me. I explain that I am a professor of family life but not a therapist. That almost never deters them.They—usually a couple but sometimes one partner—set an appointment to come to see me. They are always in deep pain. I often do something they don’t expect. They come prepared to process a litany of complaints and a load of discouragement. They often expect me to be able to Read More.
Closing Your Mental WindowsOne of the most important parts of transitioning into lovemaking is developing the mental discipline to close down the many mental windows open in a woman’s mind. A woman must be able to “turn off,” in order to be able to “turn on!” My friend and colleague, Mark Gungor, comedian and popular speaker on marriage, talks about how men’s brains are more like individual boxes (that don’t like to touch), whereas women’s brains are more like an interconnected web of wires with Read More.
Recently a woman who was asking for my advice said, “My 10-year-old son, Benjamin, will not do what I say. I know he hears me but he just ignores me when I talk to him. How can I get him to listen to me? I know I shouldn’t feel this way, but it’s like his heart is hard or something. He doesn’t seem to care about helping out or listening to me at all.”When this woman shared her frustration with me, I knew exactly what it felt like to feel ignored by a child. When my oldest daughter was three Read More.
I hope this day seems a blessing to you. Whether you are at the top of the mountain of joy, or in a deep ravine of difficulty, each day we are granted breath to live, learn, and understand more about ourselves, the Plan, and about others – there are blessings to obtain.When it’s nighttime, the stars shine brightly. What a thoughtful and beautiful reminder that- even in darkness- there is light to guide us. [Read More at Meridian Magazine] Read More.
Protecting Yourself and Escaping from Domestic ViolenceGetting out of an abusive or violent relationship isn’t easy. Maybe you’re still hoping that things will change or you’re afraid of what your partner will do if he discovers you’re trying to leave. Whatever your reasons, you probably feel trapped and helpless. But help is available. There are many resources available for abused and battered women, including crisis hotlines, shelters—even job training, legal services, and childcare. You Read More.